Relationships
I love role playing in marriages. Like having a husband roleplay in a marriage to roleplay having a responsibility to lead his household in a loving and gentle way, giving his life to his wife (like how Christ gave his life to the Church by dying) so she (the wife) can roleplay willingly submitting herself to her husband's leadership
This is more fun than other types of BDSM marriage roleplaying like the Princess Lelia roleplay that Ross and Rachel did in Friends. roleplay not raceplay
I love roleplay where husbands play a role of being committed to building strong marriages and families through love, protection, and biblical values
I love roleplay where husbands and wives are each be actively involved in their families. Within this roleplay I feel they should treasure their spouses. Roleplay or not I believe that husbands and wives both should be more confident, self assured and learn what it means to be a good husband/wife .
I am fine with Promise Keepers, many of my former church group friends belonged to Promise Keepers and it improved their marriages and lives. They are not sexist or misgonist in any way shape or form. They are a fine Christian group. But they need to practice what they preach more at home
The roleyplay above is more fun than other types of BDSM marriage roleplaying like the Princess Lelia roleplay that Ross and Rachel did in Friends.
The male spaces where guys go to complain about their dating lives not be good are really just about sucking at large and such male spaces are only rhetoric laden spaces which house misogyny, hatred, and violence.
In addition to that ever present negative narrative on their views of women, they furthermore lack nuance and enjoy trolling
Some guys are wrong to repeatedly ask entirely random people to "date" them without bothering to establish a rapport with them and they are further wrong to tend to couple such so-called requests with hostility, and unwanted behaviors which are nothing more than a bit of spam
I am interested in the Female Dating strategy subreddit
The /r/FemaleDatingStrategy subreddit or FDS is "the first and only all-women dating subreddit! Here, we discuss effective dating strategies for women who want to take control of their dating lives. Be advised that we have a different ideology from other dating and/or women subs, so posts and advice given that contradict our ideology will be removed. We believe in only displaying content that is beneficial to women. To gain a deeper understanding of our community and our principles, you are required to read the FDS Handbook before posting."
I condone the advice that it gives to women even if it might be socially and sexually conservative adjacent. I can live with the FDS requiring posters of its subreddit following strict rules to avoid being banned, and with consensual BDSM, porn consumption, and casual sex being bannable offenses
I am against hierarchies and FDS has a strict hierarchy but whatever.
It is funny how their moderators are called "Ruthless Strategists" and on top. That is actually the case on nearly ever subreddit: the moderators on nearly every subreddit are at the top of the subreddit hierarchy and are 'ruthless strategists' who maneuver to take over subreddits to make those subreddits their own personal polemic spaces
Since I am ok with Breadtube collectivism I am by extension with the FDS Community being prioritized over the individual, and I am cool with it requiring its members to not speak with journalists (after the whole Jesse Waters-r/antiwork fiasco can you really blame them?),
The fds however does advise women against dating men who have mental illnesses and this is wrong since it is abelism
FDS has also actually banned members for believing men can be victims of sexual assault. Normally I would be p.oed about such bans since those bans are something liberal femnists or bourgeois feminists would do but coming from FDSers I make peace with it.
FDS bans Transgender women from posting on their subreddit and I plead the fifth on whether I condone such bans (I am against such bans but I plead the fifth on whether I condone them)
The members oppose liberal feminism, or "libfems",[190][188] and endorse TERF-like views, with transgender women being entirely banned from posting.
FDS has given contradictory advice, like them encouraging independence from men, while at the same time expecting men to pay for dates, and also to be the primary breadwinner of the home
I am glad that FDS was founded as opposition to manosphere subreddits, A co-host for the subreddit's podcast said in The Guardian about comparisons of FDS to the manosphere: "[FDS] isn't about trying to manipulate men into trying to behave a certain way ... it's more about finding a man who is comfortable with you having boundaries and standards, and who understands how to treat a woman."
This FDS Reddit sub and I find it too angry and manipulative, and it possibly could slippery slope into being regressive.
I see FDS as a group of women attempting to make the best out of the bs situation dating currently is for women. Just like it's ridiculous that lesbians have to put up with avoiding the pornsick variant Transgender women in the dating world, straight women (including bisexual women seeking a male partner) have to put up with avoiding pornsick men.
While I do not agree with everything on r/FDS (including their emphasis on working on physical appearance), I believe that a lot of the advice there is also good for women overall, like: putting your own economic independence first, the refusal to relocate for a man without commitment, the refusal to date men who watch or do porn, the refusal to engage in things like sending nudes, ensuring they have a social life that is independent of a man, and many other examples.
I know there are numerous "problematic" things about the FDS philosophy, generally I believe they're a much greater influence on young women than any sex pozzy libfem b.s out there. They also didn't believe TWAW, by the way!
FDS is a big community that contains a multitude of views. Some of the content is darn good, and I believe they assist a lot of women in learning how to stop behaving in ways they didn't value themselves. Other commenters promote views including but not limited to: self objectification as to attract a mate, I didn't think that was that great.
I really am ok with the FDS content there. There's simply something about unapologetic women that is marvelous lol.
You have to love the FDS narrative of establishing and cultivating a woman's self-worth, and knowing their own power as a self-possessed human being. Also it is base the messages that they have about putting up good boundaries and standards, and investing in themselves and womans futures before anyone or anything else. This all is highly valuable as it goes against how most women and girls are being socialized and in the mindset that applies to each aspect of life.
The FDS sub can though get a bit strange with posts on how to "look sexy", or the "check out all the gifts my bey got for me" posts but hey, it's the OP's lifestyle, not my lifestyle. I think that other readers are able to think critically too
FDS is a smidge radical in the way that they are hardcore realists, which is commendable. Their advice is very much practical, and if it gives off a regressive vibe, then that's due to the fact that they are trying to make the best out of a horrible situation. They are navigating a real situation they are in that is not of their making to best shield themselves and their best interests.
Like take, expecting men to pay for their dates with women... Men are socialized to pay for the bill for first, second and subsequent dates. If they don't do so without thinking twice about doing that, it is a bright red flag; they don't take their date seriously or even value their date's time. Should this be the the thing that happens? Obviously not, but it is 100% consistent with my experience.
You can read more about the FDS here
Here are some FAQs about FDS
Here is the official FDS site and below are some helpful pieces from it:
Patriarchal projection, why its them and definitely not us (I believe that only 1 person should be allowed to be in saunas at one time and it was wrong for Germany to allow multiple people to be in saunas together. I am going to force Germany and the US to ban multiple people from being in saunas together. They banned people during the pandemic from being near each other in public so they have to agree with my request since otherwise they would be hypocrites)
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